Self Care

What “Presence” Feels Like

What “Presence” Feels Like

A friend once said that what she loves about travel, is that every time you go on a trip, you are changed forever.  She is so right. We see and experience things when we go to places we’ve never been that simply cannot happen by armchair travel through a Google search.  This summer, I had an extraordinary opportunity to go to Africa--and it was one of those trips that changed me in ways I am still synthesizing.

When to Step Away from Work and Focus on Self-Care

When to Step Away from Work and Focus on Self-Care

For many people, breaking away from the gravitational pull of work is extremely difficult. Our drive to get things done, feel a sense of accomplishment, and succeed often keeps us working well past the point of diminishing returns. We find ourselves saying, “Let me just squeeze in one more thing from my to-do list and THEN I’ll go home for the day,” or “Once we get past these huge projects, THEN I’ll take a vacation.”  

Getting Past the Guilt of Me-Time as a Mom

Getting Past the Guilt of Me-Time as a Mom

When Glenn Close won a Golden Globe for her role in “The Wife” earlier this year she said something in her acceptance speech that made me stand up in my own living room and say “Preach!” She talked about her mother, (who’d spent her life supplementing herself to her father), and who, in her eighties, told Close that she felt hadn’t accomplished anything because of it…

Parenting Through Perfectionism

Parenting Through Perfectionism

As any perfectionist will tell you, advice to just “know when good enough is good enough” or “take it easy” fall on deaf ears. Asking a perfectionist to quit being a perfectionist is like asking a bird to quit flying; it’ll never work.​​​​​​​

Carving out time for your Spouse (once you have kids)

Carving out time for your Spouse (once you have kids)

The scene: You’re finally alone with your spouse, out for a nice dinner, and all you can talk about are the kids.

Did you talk to Ms. So-and-So about the science project?
Are you taking [the kid] to piano lessons on Saturday or am I?